Any Man

  • Title: Any Man
  • Author: Amber Tamblyn
  • ISBN: 0062688936
  • Page: 386
  • Format: ebook
  • Any Man In her blazingly original and unforgettable debut novel Any Man Amber Tamblyn brings to startling life a specter of sexual violence in the shadowy form of Maude a serial female rapist who preys on
    In her blazingly original and unforgettable debut novel Any Man , Amber Tamblyn brings to startling life a specter of sexual violence in the shadowy form of Maude, a serial female rapist who preys on men.In this electric and provocative debut novel, Tamblyn blends genres of poetry, prose, and elements of suspense to give shape to the shocking narratives of victims of sexu In her blazingly original and unforgettable debut novel Any Man , Amber Tamblyn brings to startling life a specter of sexual violence in the shadowy form of Maude, a serial female rapist who preys on men.In this electric and provocative debut novel, Tamblyn blends genres of poetry, prose, and elements of suspense to give shape to the shocking narratives of victims of sexual violence, mapping the destructive ways in which our society perpetuates rape culture.A violent serial rapist is on the loose, who goes by the name Maude She hunts for men at bars, online, at home the place doesn t matter, neither does the man Her victims then must live the aftermath of their assault in the form of doubt from the police, feelings of shame alienation from their friends and family and the haunting of a horrible woman who becomes the phantom on which society projects its greatest fears, fascinations and even misogyny All the while the police are without leads and the media hound the victims, publicly dissecting the details of their attack.What is extraordinary is how as years pass these men learn to heal, by banding together and finding a space to raise their voices Told in alternating viewpoints signature to each voice and experience of the victim, these pages crackle with emotion, ranging from horror to breathtaking empathy Get A Copy Kindle Store UKOnline StoresAudibleBarnes NobleWalmart eBooksApple BooksGoogle PlayAbebooksBook DepositoryIndigoAlibrisBetter World BooksIndieBoundLibraries Or buy for ebook, 288 pages Published June 26th 2018 by Harper Perennial More Details ISBN 0062688936 ISBN13 9780062688934 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Showing 1 30 Rating details Sort Default Filter Aug 09, 2018 Krystin Rachel rated it it was amazing review of another edition Shelves bad girls club, binge read, challenge 2018, character driven, jawdropper, all time faves, desert island pick, social issues, standalone, suspense Blog BookstagramThis book is unlike anything I have ever read, and I am utterly emotionally ruined by it.Seriously This book has fucked me up.I started reading this in the morning and I didn t put it down until I read the last page that evening I was completely obsessed, completely enthralled and emotionally enamoured.I ve taken a couple of days to think about this review because I want it to be coherent and not preachy, but I m definitely about to go on a rant of epic proportions filled wit Blog BookstagramThis book is unlike anything I have ever read, and I am utterly emotionally ruined by it.Seriously This book has fucked me up.I started reading this in the morning and I didn t put it down until I read the last page that evening I was completely obsessed, completely enthralled and emotionally enamoured.I ve taken a couple of days to think about this review because I want it to be coherent and not preachy, but I m definitely about to go on a rant of epic proportions filled with long quotes, so buckle up buttercups.This is the story of five men, all of whom have been the victim of a serial rapist known as Maude It is the story of how the media handles rape, how society handles rape How we speak about it, how we shame, how we lay blame It s about the questions we ask, how we ask them and the assumptions we make How we try to make ourselves feel comfortable in the presence of someone else s trauma How the survivors grapple with their new reality, and their upended perception of themselves, their relationships and the world around them.It s about gender equality and gender roles and gender assumptions It s about the groups we align ourselves with, the lines in the sand we draw as tribes The hate we have The resentment we have How women feel about our social history and how it doesn t matter until it happens to a man It s about how blind we are to our shared wants and needs And how if we just worked together we could change things.It s also creepy with elements of suspense.All things combined, it became a work of art that was literally intoxicating At one point my husband said, are you going to stop reading soon I look at the clock I d been reading for 4 hours and I didn t even realize it Good evening, I m your host, Melissa Hope and thank you for joining me on BCN s number one primetime television talk show The Melissa Hope Hour Guests , what do you make of these specific cases and the controversial circumstances surrounding how, in particular, they occurred Jennifer Listen, no one deserves to be the victim of a sexual assault, but doesn t this bring up another issue I mean, shouldn t people engage in some kind of behaviour so as not to put themselves in a vulnerable position Melissa There are no mitigating factors when it comes to sexual assault, Jennifer All right, Meryl Pichette, your chance to tick tock on the Melissa Hope clock Jennifer brings up an interesting point regarding being made to penetrate Meryl, tell me what you re reading on social media about this SHOCKING story.Meryl Well, Melissa, our readers definitely have a lot to say here the word MAUDE has been trending on Twitter for three days straight A lot of Americans want to know, how, like literally HOW exactly, this could ve been rape I mean, from a purely logical perspective, wouldn t a man have and I just have to ask this, with all due respect to the victims wouldn t a man have to get an erection in order to be made to penetrate Melissa More like Maude to penetrate This is not a narrative novel in the typical sense There are no scenes of a detective on the hunt or setting the scene of a restaurant or characters, or even really time, with descriptions It is abstract in its prose, but its in this abstract style that you are hit with so much raw, unflinching emotion that it becomes impossible to look away and impossible to stop reading.The book is woven together with poetry, prose, journal entries, radio shows dialogue, tweets and dating app chats and monologues and erratic thoughts You live within the characters as they speak you watch the news, you read the tweets, you see the texts.This book places you on the outside of society, looking in Taking you away from your timelines and newsfeeds, and forcing you to see how we behave as a group from a clearer, distant perspective How our behaviour looks from a macro perspective, instead of the micro that we are so used to seeing in our own little bubbles Conflicted about MaudeToPenetrate Why was this married father of 2 drinking w a random woman in the first place Meghan McCainI m just going to say it Men, enjoy a taste of your own medicine Maudsters Laura MarieWhen it comes to violence against men, some people are actually saying what many have been thinking Men are getting what they deserve Inside the bizarre world of Maudsters Bitch MagazineThis Maudsters shit is the scariest witch hunt of them all Feminist BullshitCan a man be raped Some say not possible Join the MauderToPenetrate debate tonight on Facebook Live 11 30 p.m EST FacebookYes, men can get raped There is no MaudeToPenetrate, only rape Teen VogueYo dudes CANNOT GET RAPED Trust Not possible Someone is lying HateMaudeToPenetrate Kanye WestSimon Schuster acquires Sebastian White s forthcoming memoir, Revenge Rampage, for historic seven figure deal Publishers WeeklyPray for the sins of the MaudeToPenetrate men with us Westboro Baptist ChurchDon t worry We are working with the greatest to catch monster Maude Disgusting America has best most amazing experts President of the United States Donald J Trump46 year old Michael Parker of Shelburne, Vermont, is the latest victim in a string of unsolved violent sexual crimes by a female perpetrator BuzzFeedEverything you need to know about trans criminal Michael Parker, formerly Michaela Parker Christian DailyTrannies are mentally ill people who need psychological help, not your sympathy MaudeToPenisRape Gavin McInnesThere is a special place in hell for people questioning Michael Parker s honesty based on his sex assigned at birth Very special place Roxane GayMaude s all I m not going out tonight I m just gonna stay home, Netflix and rape Whitney Cummings This is nothing less than an outstanding, emotional journey that is both devastating and eye opening, and a powerful teaching moment about rape culture if you are open to it.What I think is absolutely brilliant, is that the book uses male victims in the story to create a powerful point that is two pronged.One When a man is raped is gets attention But when a woman is raped, it is expected.Two When a man is raped, he is ridiculed When a woman is raped, she is doubted.This is not a feminist diatribe in paperback It is an honest, rational look at the way society has conditioned us to approach sexual assault and sexual assault victims.Each character receives their own part of the book, and although there are no labels or titles to let you know who is speaking, the voices and the styles applied to each is so unique and perfectly crafted that you know exactly who is speaking each time There are characters who are just like you and me, and then there are characters who are obviously inspired by real life figureheads who perpetuate certain aspects of how society is currently functioning.Like Sebastian White, a gay Libertarian opinion writer who hates feminists and liberals and goes on and on about what a unicorn he is being a gay man in the alt right movement Sound like anyone you know There s so much to loathe in this world, wouldn t you agree Islam Welfare leeches Rachel Maddow Liberals Sean Penn Anything with beets in it Beet are vile But than any of that, as you know, I loathe feminists It s no small miracle that all feminists in America haven t been stoned to death by now I m just telling you the truth Feminists are pollution, taking a stance against what exactly, no one in their right mind knows. It s ironic that this character would then go on to be raped What are feminists taking a stance against Well, the way this character, and those before and after him, are treated after their rapes, for one.The culture in which a raped man is questioned about having an erection at the time is a patriarchal one that feminism seeks to dismantle in order to replace it with one where a male victim of sexual assault is not asked about his boners Where a woman gets the benefit of the doubt Where rape kits don t sit untested for decades Where victims are not asked about how much they had to drink, or what they were wearing Male or female.There is a poignant moment in one of the scenes where men are in a bar, sitting around joking about the victims, and then a woman walks in and the men push their alcoholic drinks away and instead sip at their water.Knowing Scared of this random woman.It s not something men think about very often Or ever What it s like to walk through a parking garage by yourself Or to the store across the street at night notallmen was a popular hashtag for a while because all men didn t want to be lumped together as pigs, as rapists, as assholes and douchebags who think they can treat a woman any damn way they please.And I get it.I m not religious, but my mom is Christian and she hates that when people hear she s a Christian they assume she probably doesn t like gay people, or that she s probably against immigration Or that she s probably a little bit racist Because that s what the loudest, most awful religious voices have conditioned outsiders to believe by way of their behaviour.My mother is not any of those things, by the way I know it But because I know her.I don t know all men What I do know is that one of those most fundamental differences between men and women is that one can easily hurt or kill the other with just their bare hands And that seems to happen a whole hell of a fucking lot.It used to be acceptable It used to be that you hit your wife for corporal punishment like you would a child, and every one ran a household that way It was the assumption that men were in charge and women were to be agreeable and if they weren t, they were punished Women couldn t even get a bank loan without a man co signing with her.Women have been fighting back against that kind of shit for a fucking long time Men have joined the movement But good men joining the fight against the status quo doesn t erase the history And it doesn t erase the present issues I myself was in an abusive relationship He was really nice when I first met him.So, I m sorry I know, rationally, that it s notallmen.But it s a lot of men And if I don t know you and we re alone together at a cross stop or on a jogging trail, yes I m going to have my guard up All women are going to have their guards up That s not a personal indictment I m not saying I think you ll hurt me I m saying I have been conditioned to be concerned for my safety around men I m telling you I don t know what you ll do because I don t know you. You ll probably do nothing But you could grab me and hold me down You could slap my ass while you re walking by You could flash me.This shit happens All The Time.What I believe makes this book so powerful is that this is not about women being raped We as a society are slightly numb to the idea of women being the victims of sexual violence Hell, my favourite genre to read makes a pretty good living thinking up new and exciting ways to kill women, put them in cages or chain them to walls or stuff them in freezers It s all for the entertainment, right God for fucking bid someone says fuck on TV or shows a nipple But don t forget to tune in at 9 pm for a new SVU episode this week another woman is fucking abused Hey, I have no real issue with this Obviously I do think books and shows, done right, are an extra source of light to shine onto the issues women face I think that s important The metoo is one of those lights Showing that as women, we are not alone in our experiences and we are sounding the alarm to stand together and say we re not going to take this any.Funny enough, the complaint I hear the most from men is that they don t feel safe approaching a woman to flirt any.Once again, women are saying hey this fucked up shit is happening to us and instead of men not all men saying back, you re right that is fucked up I m sorry you have to deal with that Men are whining about how this affects their ability to hit on women.Omg, let me hit something This book is so fucking important IT S SO IMPORTANT.It s not only a work of art, it s a work of societal importance And it s also pretty creepy This is my favourite time of year When everything begins to die without choice When the great mother begins her grand death sentencing But I am the greatest mother of all And while I m not a murderess, I do love a good ending to a man s mind, especially if I ve written it It s not revenge It s not payback Nothing was done to me It s just something I like to do now and again. Maude is a faceless void You literally know nothing about her, except that she could be any woman who walks into a bar Any woman you pass on the street Any woman you ride in an elevator with.Just like for women our Maude could be any man who walks into a bar Any man we pass on the street Any man we ride in an elevator with What could be better about her Why are her arms shaped like that Do her arms remind you of your mother Do your mother s arms remind you of a daughter What do you want to do to her If you could do anything you wanted to, what would you do Play with her Penalize her Hit her Rape Beat her Cry on her Cum on her Take her body away from her Cut off her hair Give her to your father Give her to the government Close her legs Close her lungs Burn her in public Take away her children Take away her abortion Give her a miscarriage Give her life Would you cut off her clitoris Cut off the parts of her face you don t like Cut out her carbohydrates Inject her with something Explain something to her Show her how something is done Teach her Fuck her Make her white instead of brown Does crying make you uncomfortable Does talking make you uncomfortable Does looking into eyes make you uncomfortable Would you live with her Share a house with her Give her your last name Treat her with respect Cheat on her Cheat on her with someone younger Someone s daughter Lie to her Curse at her Call her a good girl Call her monster Can you trust her What if you can t trust her How will you feel if you can t trust her How will you behave if you can t trust her What does it say about you that she can t be trusted Is she beautiful Can you have her What if you can t have her How will you behave if you can t have her What does it say about you that she can t be had Will you make her pay Will you let it slide What if she s ugly but you need to fuck What if she smells but you need to fuck What if she s gay but you need to fuck What if she changes her mind but you need to fuck What if she s a child but you need to fuck What if she s your child but you need to fuck What if she s in pain but you need to fuck What if you re married but you need to fuck What if she lets people die What if she likes war What if she ungrateful and unkind about it What if she asked for it What if she runs for president How would you feel if she did the same things to you Maude has left the chat Maude is offline This is, far and away, the only book I have read in literally a decade that has made me this emotional and awe inspired.Next time someone asks me my favourite book of all time, I ll have a hard time not saying this one.5 stars x infinity flag 88 likesLike see review View all 22 comments Jun 28, 2018 Sara rated it it was amazing Shelves cringe read, dark, defying genre, disturbed the crap out of me, elusive, epically sad, fiction but not, gripping, life lessons, literary fiction When I was in my twenties I was attacked, assaulted, groped.I don t know what word to really use for it I was on a bus that was full of people The subway was broken down and I had to stand I was facing the windows and leaning over some old woman who wasn t making eye contact because you don t do that on NYC public transportation if you can help it I didn t see his face At first I just assumed it was because there were so many people The trains and the buses get super crowded, especially in When I was in my twenties I was attacked, assaulted, groped.I don t know what word to really use for it I was on a bus that was full of people The subway was broken down and I had to stand I was facing the windows and leaning over some old woman who wasn t making eye contact because you don t do that on NYC public transportation if you can help it I didn t see his face At first I just assumed it was because there were so many people The trains and the buses get super crowded, especially in summer I could feel him against my back and my ass When he started moving against me, grinding there I said it I told myself it was just the bus swaying back and forth He wasn t doing it on purpose Nothing was happening What every fucking fiber of my being was telling me was happening was definitely NOT happening I took a step forward He took a step forward and then I felt, or maybe I just thought I felt, his hand on my leg It was very hot and I was sweating and I was awash with these terrible feelings of fear and guilt All the things I swore I d never feel if something like this happened to me crashed in on me all at once I shouldn t make a scene, I was blowing it out of proportion, this wasn t a big deal, he wasn t hurting me, I d be able to get off the bus soon, it was my fault, I shouldn t have worn a dress to work that day, what would I even tell a cop I don t even have the pleasure of telling you that I got him in the end I didn t elbow him in the crotch or slam my foot down on his or even make blistering eye contact with him as he got off the bus I never even saw his face The bus stopped and he disappeared into the crowd and I wouldn t have been able to pick him out of a line up even if I had found a cop.That was almost twenty years ago You can t shut me up about the shit I got up to in college but I ve only just started telling that story I think I ve been ashamed for a long time that I didn t do anything to stop him Like where was my self respect Or that I m gonna mess you up if you even think about giving me any grief attitude everyone I ve ever known will tell you I wear all over me like a goddamn badge of honor Where was that Logically I know how stupid that is Logically I know that it doesn t matter what I was wearing or doing or not doing I could have been naked on that bus and he still would have had no right to do what he did I had every right to scream my head off, punch him in the face, call the cops and have him arrested But I didn t Just like I didn t do anything about the homeless guy who jacked off next to me on the subway that time or the hundreds of men over the years who ve called me a slut or asked me to give me a piece of that ass from a passing car or told me to smile cause you re so pretty or whistled or blown sloppy kisses or grabbed at me in a bar because whoah sorry I almost tripped ha ha ha or followed me down a dark street when I was careless enough to walk home in the early evening through a bad part of town with my roommate Because I live in a world that s taught me from the cradle that my body is not my own It is the property of a society that sees my breasts and my pussy before it sees me, Sara, the human being with a mind and a soul and a heartbeat that s just as strong and vital and important as that fucking asshole on that bus and all the assholes before and after I live in a world that has told me and my sisters for generation upon generation that we are lesser We must submit We must endure We must acquiesce We must lie back and think of mother fucking England We must be sexy But not too sexy We must be mothers, that s what we were built for But we musn t let ourselves go We must watch our carb intake and never miss an episode of American s Next Top Model and follow all of Cosmo s beauty tips But no guy likes a girl who doesn t want to eat a quarter pounder We must be patient and kind and understanding and supportive But we can t expect guys to read our minds or understand our feelings because they re so different from ours We must control ourselves and what we wear and what we say and how much we drink and where we go at night We can t expect men to control themselves Its different for them They re wired differently, built differently, they can t help it, its instinct Its our fault.That s what this book made me think about That s what this book made me want to talk about It made all the anger and guilt and bullshit kind of rise up and turn into a sort of righteous feeling of pride I know that doesn t make much sense I mean this is a book about a woman who is a monster It s called Any Man because it doesn t matter what kind of man it is, every now and then she chooses one It could be a boy, an old man, a gay man or a straight one She chooses one and she rapes him She takes away the thing that defines him as a man And then she vanishes This book is about those men left behind who struggle, and die over and over and over again, and move on or don t, and become inspiring leaders or hopeless, wasted husks of who they once were They become victims of the vicious, catty, fucking evil social media twenty four hour news cycle zeitgeist They re turned into the pet causes of celebrities and the punchlines of viral twitter jokes They re vilified and adored and questioned and disbelieved and held up as role models And something about these crimes that have been present in our world since we climbed up out of the primordial ooze being put into this context, putting them on men, made them real for me They were unique instances of horror and violation that felt believable because they happened to men And yes, in a way that s horrible My own experience became valid to me because I looked at it happening to people who aren t usually the victims, who to my mind shouldn t be the victims, and felt all the horror and anger and lust for justice I m not smart enough by half to start giving some intellectual social commentary on this book I can t talk about the feminist mystique or empowerment or use any of the buzz words I can t even really talk about what I think Amber Tamblyn was trying to accomplish with this book I can tell you that its astoundingly well written That the voice of every victim is unique and terrible and beautiful I can tell you I couldn t put it down from the second I picked it up I can tell you I hated and feared the woman who haunted these men just as much as I ve ever hated the men who usually take her place I can tell you that this isn t some uber feminist manifesto of revenge that s calling to every woman to rise up against her oppressors.But I do think it is a call to action Its a call to rise up not against each other but against the world that made us what we are now We have to recognize that we have the power to make this a different world that isn t ruled by social media trends and how many likes your stupid vacation photos got or what you wear or how much you drink or what you do for a living or how much money you make We can t keep thinking its enough to add metoo to a tweet and consider that being part of the movement We can t share a baleful nod with our neighbors about the fucking horrors in Texas and consider that being part of the conversation We can t let loose our rage on the world and then leave others to pick up the pieces and find the solutions WE have to recreate the world We can t keep sitting around assuming someone else will do it for us Because when we do that THIS is what we get This thing we re trapped in now is what we get.I refuse to be that girl on the bus any I fucking refuse to stand there silent while some stranger rubs his dick against me I will take the guilt and the second guessing and the fear of people staring and wondering what I did to make him do that and I will tell it to fuck right the hell off We need to take our stories and our pain and glorious rage and turn it into a better world Because no one else will do it flag 61 likesLike see review View all 11 comments Sep 02, 2018 JV rated it liked it Shelves 2018, feminism, mystery thriller, verisimilitude TW Rape, suicide, self harm, gore, and violence With a flair of unorthodox writing, Tamblyn creates a provocative debut novel that is befuddling in its narrative style and experimental format, but still sears with an irrefutable verity about rape culture, sexual assault and aggression, the effects of patriarchal masculinity on men, and the way by which we feast on this ruckus in various media as it upends the lives of survivors, who in turn, commit atrocious acts that might eventually lead to s TW Rape, suicide, self harm, gore, and violence With a flair of unorthodox writing, Tamblyn creates a provocative debut novel that is befuddling in its narrative style and experimental format, but still sears with an irrefutable verity about rape culture, sexual assault and aggression, the effects of patriarchal masculinity on men, and the way by which we feast on this ruckus in various media as it upends the lives of survivors, who in turn, commit atrocious acts that might eventually lead to self mutilation, suicide, and even murder This is due to the concentrated gaze and vitriol we exude doubting, humiliating, blaming, silencing, and or punishing them for something they never wanted to happen, i.e a complicated situation that is against their own volition Jarring and haunting, Tamblyn introduces a gender bending novel with a female serial rapist preying on innocent men That goes to say that anyone in our society, regardless of gender, gender identity, or sexual orientation, can be a victim of sexual violence and any sexual behaviour contact that is non consensual in nature is considered as a sexual assault Honestly, Any Man reads like a social commentary than a novel itself The victims harrowing accounts are also narrated in unconventional formats interviews, tweets, online chats, apps, radio calls, etc While this might sound alluring, it can also be confusing to traditional readers who would prefer a linear narrative instead of a disjointed one I empathize with the survivors Amidst the shame, guilt, anger, violence, and helplessness, they re able to come out of their cocoon and overcome this traumatic experience with renewed hope and vigour as well as their indomitable will to live with the loving and wholehearted support of family, friends, and community Overall, this novel delivers its messages well along with an interesting premise, but still with its minor flaws Tell me how you prove coercion How you prove the difference between being hit on and hunted How you prove your arms were held down Your body was touched Your life was threatened if you ever told anyone For people who have suffered violent sexual crimes, proof the very act of proving is than just a burden It is boundless bearing An eternity of futility flag 56 likesLike see review View all 8 comments Aug 13, 2018 Raeleen Lemay rated it it was amazing review of another edition Shelves adult fiction, spooky scary, favorites, own This book is insane It s been a while since I flew through a book as quickly as I did with this one, and for good reason There is absolutely no down time in this book, it just made it impossible for me to put it down It obviously tackles very real, raw, and intense topics, rape being the main focus But not only that, it discusses recovery, suicide, eating disorders, among many others I really loved how Tamblyn spoke frankly about all of these things, and her sometimes very poetic writing sty This book is insane It s been a while since I flew through a book as quickly as I did with this one, and for good reason There is absolutely no down time in this book, it just made it impossible for me to put it down It obviously tackles very real, raw, and intense topics, rape being the main focus But not only that, it discusses recovery, suicide, eating disorders, among many others I really loved how Tamblyn spoke frankly about all of these things, and her sometimes very poetic writing style really worked well with the story.I m still processing, but let s just say this is not a book to be missed flag 48 likesLike see review View 1 comment Aug 10, 2018 Samantha Irby rated it it was amazing FUCKED ME RIGHT UP WOW flag 39 likesLike see review View all 3 comments Jul 09, 2018 TANYA rated it it was amazing Shelves highly recommend Unlike anything I ve ever read It was macabre, twisted and so unique It s not for the faint of heart I loved the writing style, at one point I forgot this was fiction, needless to say I was very impressed with Amber Tamblyn flag 37 likesLike see review May 06, 2018 Chandra Claypool wherethereadergrows rated it it was amazing review of another edition Shelves arc, astoria bookshop arcs You ever start reading a book and know immediately that it was going to be something different than what you ve ever read before That you know you re going to get gut punched and deepen that line between your eyes from the intense face you make as you turn each page Yeah, that s what happened here.Amber Tamblyn uses a variety of writing styles here to bring you a story that s not about the victimizer, but about the victims She takes us deep into their minds in the aftermath of their horrible You ever start reading a book and know immediately that it was going to be something different than what you ve ever read before That you know you re going to get gut punched and deepen that line between your eyes from the intense face you make as you turn each page Yeah, that s what happened here.Amber Tamblyn uses a variety of writing styles here to bring you a story that s not about the victimizer, but about the victims She takes us deep into their minds in the aftermath of their horrible incidents and we see how they try to feel whole again We are taken into their random thoughts how these situations occur and then she takes us further in showing how society and the media help to perpetuate the rape culture in America All of this is done in a various styles poetry, tweets, chat boxes, interviews, journal entries, emails and every single one of these hits you right in the solar plexus We hear ALL the time how a woman shouldn t have worn that short skirt or dressed herself up like that if she didn t want the attention How she was just asking for it In this novel, we hear about how he shouldn t have gotten drunk at the bar while his wife was at home with the kids What was he thinking STOP VICTIMIZING THE VICTIMS FURTHER How many of you think men CAN T get raped Why do we, as a society, blame the victim, use them as the story of the day and then toss them aside when something horrifying comes alone This book puts you into the mind of the survivors How they will have to live with this for the rest of their lives and how by using each other as a support group, you can eventually, hopefully, forward I went through a roller coaster of emotions as I read this It hit me HARD and left quite the imprint.Equally horrifying, eye opening and heart breaking, this book is INTENSE Tamblyn clearly knows how to write and this debut will leave you reeling This won t be an easy read for some readers, but it s a necessary one flag 32 likesLike see review View 2 comments Jul 21, 2018 Emily May rated it it was ok Shelves 2018, feminism Interesting concept Stylistically too odd for me flag 27 likesLike see review Oct 18, 2018 Janet rated it it was amazing review of another edition This genre busting debut novel was surprising from beginning to end A female serial rapist known only as Maude preys upon unsuspecting men, boldly reframing sexual assault, imagining a male victim, female attacker point of view, the better to defamiliarize and highlight our contemporary rape culture We see each man struggling with what has happened to him personally, each with a very different voice and then the media circus begins, adding its own brand of vicious ugliness to the suffering I This genre busting debut novel was surprising from beginning to end A female serial rapist known only as Maude preys upon unsuspecting men, boldly reframing sexual assault, imagining a male victim, female attacker point of view, the better to defamiliarize and highlight our contemporary rape culture We see each man struggling with what has happened to him personally, each with a very different voice and then the media circus begins, adding its own brand of vicious ugliness to the suffering It s a scathing portrait of American celebrity culture and the way in which it transmutes human tragedy into a squalid orgy where victims are forgotten as likes and shares swirl and news becomes a lurid feast.The section of tweets is particularly devastating, as Tamblyn uses actual cultural figures to create a realistic sequence in which the content goes from sympathy for the men few likes to needing to be seen showing sympathy to just who can use their pain to get attention and sell something It s a blistering criticism, as is the use of the men, especially Donald, the first victim, who agrees to be interviewed in hopes of helping other men, and the hideous way his vulnerability is trampled in the public arena.I admit, when I heard that Amber Tamblyn was writing a novel about a female serial rapist, I was concerned to say the least not wanting to see some cheap rape revenge fantasy Any Man is anything but cheap raw, passionate, sophisticated, artistically bravura The book s furious empathy is for victims of sexual assault, and especially the way they are futher assaulted and depersonalized by sensationalist news and social media Making men the victims widens the discussion, and defamiliarizes the narrative Stylistically, the book is a stunner, a real highwire act as it moves between monologue, diary, verse, interview, online searches, opinion pieces and those blistering tweets, an explosive, shapeshifting piece of literary real estate This astonishing novel steps aside for nothing, takes every risk and succeeds Don t miss this one flag 22 likesLike see review Jun 30, 2018 Blake rated it it was amazing review of another edition This is the best book I ll never read again It took all the feelings of guilt and shame of being a survivor of sexual assault into words that I hadn t been able to find myself It was insanely triggering I broke down numerous times But that s ok, because the journey I went on was like a cleansing fire I suffered and so did these characters, and Tamblyn shows the very difficult task of trying to move past the stereotype of being a man who was raped I can t thank the author enough of this ama This is the best book I ll never read again It took all the feelings of guilt and shame of being a survivor of sexual assault into words that I hadn t been able to find myself It was insanely triggering I broke down numerous times But that s ok, because the journey I went on was like a cleansing fire I suffered and so did these characters, and Tamblyn shows the very difficult task of trying to move past the stereotype of being a man who was raped I can t thank the author enough of this amazing, powerful, and important book flag 20 likesLike see review View 1 comment Oct 21, 2017 Drew rated it it was amazing review of another edition Shelves favorites 6 6 out of 5 I read and loved Tamblyn s Dark Sparkler a few years ago, and I was excited to see what would happen when she turned her attentions to full length prose ANY MAN does not disappoint Fair warning this book is fucking brutal If you have a penis, you re going to squirm And that s kind of the point Tamblyn takes the potentially cringeworthy concept of a female rapist raping men and makes it potent because it doesn t so much focus on the perp as it does the victims The survivors Th 6 out of 5 I read and loved Tamblyn s Dark Sparkler a few years ago, and I was excited to see what would happen when she turned her attentions to full length prose ANY MAN does not disappoint Fair warning this book is fucking brutal If you have a penis, you re going to squirm And that s kind of the point Tamblyn takes the potentially cringeworthy concept of a female rapist raping men and makes it potent because it doesn t so much focus on the perp as it does the victims The survivors The media frenzy It gives voice to a male victim not because men need another place to be represented but because sexual assault happens across gender lines and one way, potentially, to get a man to understand the reality of surviving sexual assault is to put him in the place of a man who has survived it In that way, Tamblyn s book is critical because it believes so wholeheartedly in the most fundamental power of art to awaken minds by evoking empathy Plus, Tamblyn s a killer writer Crossing forms and styles, she makes each voice unique and distinct and the book almost compels you to read it I had plans on this Saturday evening and instead I sat home and read the whole damn thing And while I crossed my legs a couple times, I also moved quickly beyond the physical OOF of it all and into a space that I realize I d never been before, a new understanding of the mind of a survivor By all rights this should not only be an instant classic, it should be added to every high school reading curriculum It should be the OneBook for the whole country A dumptruck full of copies should be left on the South Lawn of the White House Read this book, now, when the minds it can change might be the ones to tip the scales flag 14 likesLike see review View 2 comments Jul 04, 2018 Jourdain Searles rated it it was ok review of another edition It lacked insight It felt false Snapshots, monologues, obvious social commentary and no real story And it obscures the rapist It turns the rapist into an almost cosmic figure A ghost To juxtapose the over the top nature of this rapist with realistic stories of trauma and survival well, it doesn t quite work The book felt like a social media commentary and pop culture than a novel Every character felt like a symbol No one felt real, no matter how much they monologued We rarel It lacked insight It felt false Snapshots, monologues, obvious social commentary and no real story And it obscures the rapist It turns the rapist into an almost cosmic figure A ghost To juxtapose the over the top nature of this rapist with realistic stories of trauma and survival well, it doesn t quite work The book felt like a social media commentary and pop culture than a novel Every character felt like a symbol No one felt real, no matter how much they monologued We rarely experience full conversations Women as a whole feel obscured Men feel like mouthpieces The pacing is all over the place The time jumps are jarring And in the end, the killer just ends up being a mouthpiece for a very stereotypical approximation of female anger flag 14 likesLike see review View 2 comments Aug 06, 2018 Trevor rated it really liked it review of another edition Shelves 2018, apl, fiction, tlb A haunting riveting read ANY MAN is an intense look at the aftermath of male rape This is a short read, so bordering on novella level, the writing style is quite eccentric Poetry, prose social media commentary mostly Twitter OkCupid combine to tell the story of 5 survivors It kind of annoyed me that there were no chapters marked with who s POV it was, but each character is so unique that it s easy to distinguish their voices I actually wasn t sure if I would b A haunting riveting read ANY MAN is an intense look at the aftermath of male rape This is a short read, so bordering on novella level, the writing style is quite eccentric Poetry, prose social media commentary mostly Twitter OkCupid combine to tell the story of 5 survivors It kind of annoyed me that there were no chapters marked with who s POV it was, but each character is so unique that it s easy to distinguish their voices I actually wasn t sure if I would be finishing the book because it took some time to get used to the style, but am glad I didn t give up on it It s clear this book has an agenda, especially when you see the hashtags Nancy Grace resemblance Media rape culture at its finest Cleverly written, ANY MAN will make you think, will make you feel, will perhaps make those who are contributing to the shameful tactics of victim blaming But men can t get raped other nonsense see life through another s lenses I also want to note I really respect Tamblyn s decision for Maude s intention it s not as simple as you may think The fact that she didn t choose the easy way out, or provide a simplistic one dimensional answer to make things easier to swallow makes this debut even harsh raw She doesn t provide a way for readers to feel empathy for the perp as they very well shouldn t, but it happens , thus solely focusing on the survivors Interestingly enough, Tamblyn chooses to not specifically seek out any type of man ANY MAN is filled with society s clich s, yet doesn t rely on those clich s to set the storyline forward Although the attacks are a huge part of the story, we begin to see the MCs start the beginning stages of healing Told in short chapters, I flew through ANY MAN in a couple of sittings I know this will leave a lasting impact on me I am looking forward to Tamblyn s next work Also, apparently this is classified as thriller It is very pseudo thriller in the sense that the hunt for Maude is on leaves things with no resolution, but that s the extent of it I haven t had the chance to listen to the audiobook version, but I imagine that it is even moving to hear the narratives come to life, so please pick that one up if you can.A necessary highly recommended read I am in a body It is not the one I came here with, but it is the one I ll leave here in I will take care of it It belongs to me now My pain, I will take care of it It belongs to me now My heart, I will take care of it It belongs to me now My story, I will take care of it It belongs to me now flag 14 likesLike see review View 2 comments Jul 01, 2018 Andrea rated it really liked it Shelves audiobook Wow talk about intense The audiobook version of this is unbelievably well put together I m still reeling from getting to the end It s short but it packs a hell of a punch flag 13 likesLike see review View all 4 comments Jun 25, 2018 Kelly rated it it was amazing Shelves read in 2018, favorites, reviewed A Searing Indictment of Rape Culture Full disclosure I received a free e ARC for review through Edelweiss Trigger warning for rape, including the rape of children and nonhuman animals, as well as victim blaming, transphobia, suicide, PTSD, anorexia, self injury, and It s a pain it s a cellular pain now, okay It s not a memory, it lives in me like a heart.Ten years ago, I was having a beer with a friend after work and a few hours later, I was violently assaulted and left for dead be A Searing Indictment of Rape Culture Full disclosure I received a free e ARC for review through Edelweiss Trigger warning for rape, including the rape of children and nonhuman animals, as well as victim blaming, transphobia, suicide, PTSD, anorexia, self injury, and It s a pain it s a cellular pain now, okay It s not a memory, it lives in me like a heart.Ten years ago, I was having a beer with a friend after work and a few hours later, I was violently assaulted and left for dead behind a dumpster No, worse I was left for living My assaulter wanted me to live through what I had experienced It was a gesture of torture, a most excruciating gift.She was just a normal woman She had brown hair and brown eyes She wasn t pretty She wasn t ugly She wasn t really old but she wasn t young either She was just a normal woman.When I first read the synopsis for Any Man, I was skeptical Best case scenario, I thought it might be a well meaning but ultimately doomed attempt to foster empathy for survivors of rape by switching up the genders making the perpetrator a woman, and her victims men I say doomed because, let s face it the same misogynist stereotypes that blame and shame women also silence male victims If women are the weaker sex, how frail must a man be to be physically overpowered by a woman How can a woman rape a man when intercourse hinges on his arousal Assuming a pretty narrow definition of rape or sexual assault, this If men are DTF 24 7, how can one possibly be raped And so on and so forth.Worst case scenario, I worried that Maude the serial female rapist who preys on men would be reduced to a femi Nazi caricature, a bitter, man hating harpy who attacks and emasculates random men, perhaps as a misguided form of revenge for past trauma Maybe she d even inspire her own fan club or copycat vigilante group And while there are echos of this misogynist cutout in the public s reaction to Maude, I think we re meant to see it as ridiculous, even horrifying Because, at the core of Tamblyn s writing lives a sense of compassion for Maude s victims and, by extension, all victims survivors as well as a keen and incisive understanding of the trauma they ve experienced.Honestly, when I realized that Amber Tamblyn was the author, that s the moment I decided to take a chance on Any Man Her feminist cred earned her the benefit of the doubt if anyone could do this story justice, I thought hoped it might be her And Tamblyn does not disappoint this is easily one of the best books I ve read this year Acerbic, witty, and as shrewd as it is painful to read Any Man is not an easy book to read, or even one that s particularly enjoyable though there are some odd, unexpected moments of levity, such as Tamblyn s imagined Twitter celeb reactions , but it s powerful and memorable and really goddamn important Beginning with Donald Ellis of Watertown, New York, Any Man follows the wake of devastation that a female serial rapist who the police will eventually dub Maude, after her OkCupid profile leaves in her wake The narrative takes place over a period of ten years, as Maude s victim count grows from one to two to five undoubtedly much higher since the majority of rapes go unreported, for the very reasons explored here She operates mainly in the Northeastern United States as far as we know , and her complete and utter lack of a pattern makes her especially difficult to catch Her victims range in age from ten to sixty four they are married, or single they have children, or not they are white, or biracial one is an openly gay celebrity, while another is a trans man Maude may initiate contact with the victims weeks before the encounter, or ambush them entirely Her choice of weapons and method of attack vary wildly One thing each attack seems to share in common is its unique depravity THIS BOOK COMES WITH A STRONG TRIGGER WARNING One thing this lack of a pattern which runs contrary to every episode of Law Order SVU, like, ever does is cleverly exposes the hypocrisy of rape culture and victim blaming Donald Ellis shouldn t have been out drinking without his wife, the rape apologists argue And Jamar Sands s sexual contact with Maude was consensual, at least initially and until he wasn t how are we to know he didn t just backtrack when the world found out about his deviant sexual kinks Or just regret the whole incident the next morning, when he woke up covered in blood that was not his own But then there s Pear O Sullivan, who Maude ambushed at his door Pear answered his doorbell and was cold cocked on the head, only to wake up handcuffed to a radiator Did he somehow invite this attack And if you can t rationalize this particular assault away, what does that say of the rest of Maude s victims Despite the popular admonitions that women s shouldn t go out alone, or late at night, or drinking, etc etc etc a minority of assaults follow this stranger in an alley narrative More likely, women and men are assaulted by people they know their boyfriends and husbands, their friends and acquaintances, police officers and priests, and on and on And these are also the accounts that are least likely to believed If an assailant could be anyone, even someone you know and love and trust, are any of us truly safe Plus, there s the whole presumption that women are sexually available until we can prove to the public s satisfaction that we are not, so But I digress As the title suggests, Any Man is about the survivors than their rapist Tamblyn tells the story from the alternating perspectives of five well, six of Maude s victims As the years tick by, we watch them struggle to cope, to heal, to make sense of what they ve been through, and come out the other side alive, though not unscathed Some find meaning in activism Donald, for example, launches an America s Most Wanted style podcast to help catch alleged rapists Pear attends therapy and becomes a mentor of sorts for Jamar True to his nature, controversial provocateur author and TV personality Sebastian White capitalizes on his tragedy and writes a book Totes not judging here Michael Parker, Maude s trans victim, kills himself though whether because of the assault, or because he s outed by the national media, is unclear Both probably And can we talk about Maude s last two victims By introducing Sebastian White an outspoken, ultra conservative gay pundit clearly modeled after Milo Yiannopoulos Tamblyn challenges us to have compassion for all victims, even those who are unlikable and, let s face it, overtly hostile to Tamblyn s intended audience Meanwhile, Michael Parker serves as a reminder that we must be inclusive in our feminism, and take trans and genderqueer folks as they are While the media insists in misgendering Michael, make no mistake he was a man, no matter the gender assigned or name given him at birth Maude seemed to accept this do you really want to be less progressive than a serial rapist While this book does come with a pretty big trigger warning Maude s crimes are abhorrent and rival those of Josef Fritzl in sheer sociopathy Tamblyn thankfully avoids describing the assaults in great detail She takes great care to remain respectful of the victims who are fictional, yes, but represent the millions of women and men who will experience rape in their lifetime The story is told through an odd mix of narrative, stream of consciousness, poetry, personal diaries, talk show transcripts, podcasts, tweets, and even a last will and testament Sometimes these various pieces of media have a special significance to a specific survivor, providing depth, nuance, and a sense of uniqueness to his voice and perspective The result is weird, at first, but ultimately quite powerful and compelling.I think Pear made me cry the hardest, between Maggie and his will Maggie the Magnificent Maple Tree Holy hell did that story give me feels Now that I ve read Any Man, I m still not sure what Tamblyn s intentions were in centering male survivors So much of the victim blaming that s thrown their way is nearly identical to the bullshit women survivors face it almost feels interchangeable There were moments often than not when I stopped thinking of the characters as male survivors and just thought of them as survivors, period No doubt women who have experienced rape and sexual assault will find much to which they can relate Perhaps Tamblyn s intention was simply to get eyeballs on the page or male eyeballs that wouldn t normally bother with a book about rape Whatever her reasons, Any Man is a valuable addition to the literature on rape culture I think it might be especially useful to those who know someone who has been assaulted Any Man can help the friends and families of survivors understand and empathize with what their loved ones are going through But then, doesn t this include most if not all of us flag 8 likesLike see review View all 4 comments Aug 24, 2018 Nadine rated it it was amazing Shelves signed 4.5 StarsAny Man is a gender bending story about the survivors of a female serial rapist named Maude The novel alternates perspective as each of the men deal with the effects of their sexual assault right after and years later.I can t say that I ve been a super fan of Amber Tamblyn s, but I enjoyed her performances whenever I seen them so when I found out she wrote a novel I knew I had to read it immediately Any Man is like nothing I ve ever read before yet reflects the real world perfectly, s 4.5 StarsAny Man is a gender bending story about the survivors of a female serial rapist named Maude The novel alternates perspective as each of the men deal with the effects of their sexual assault right after and years later.I can t say that I ve been a super fan of Amber Tamblyn s, but I enjoyed her performances whenever I seen them so when I found out she wrote a novel I knew I had to read it immediately Any Man is like nothing I ve ever read before yet reflects the real world perfectly, so, in a way, I ve seen everything depicted in this novel play out numerous times before.The way society views rape and treats its survivors depends on a lot of factors that shouldn t matter, like gender, race, ethnicity, and the facts surrounding the assault Blame is shifted and twisted on everyone and anyone but the perpetrator when women are raped Any Man spotlights this as each of the men are shamed in different ways.Tamblyn s writing is what makes this novel a success The novel alternates between prose, poetry, journal entries, online messaging, and tweets These differing formats help the reader immerse themselves in the characters and the picture Tamblyn is painting It s a writing style that readers will either love or hate.Overall, Any Man is a realistic depiction of how sexual assault and its survivors are treated by reversing the gender to spotlight the changes we need to make as a society flag 7 likesLike see review Oct 26, 2018 debra rated it really liked it review of another edition Shelves available 4 4.5 Very different, dark, but hopeful too flag 6 likesLike see review View 2 comments Aug 04, 2018 Cassie rated it it was amazing review of another edition Wow Just wow This was an overwhelmingly intense reading experience In Any Man, Amber Tamblyn takes society s widely accepted perception of rape and flips it on its head, by writing about the male victims of a female perpetrator And in so doing, she serves to highlight the injustices faced by sexual assault survivors in an entirely new light, exploring everything from victim blaming, to the 24 hour media cycle, to the failures of the authorities and the devastating tolls on the victims And Wow Just wow This was an overwhelmingly intense reading experience In Any Man, Amber Tamblyn takes society s widely accepted perception of rape and flips it on its head, by writing about the male victims of a female perpetrator And in so doing, she serves to highlight the injustices faced by sexual assault survivors in an entirely new light, exploring everything from victim blaming, to the 24 hour media cycle, to the failures of the authorities and the devastating tolls on the victims And it is powerful This book has a clear agenda, which it wholly delivers, but at the same time it s so well written that it doesn t feel like it s being shoved down the reader s throat The prose is spare but hugely impactful I was so impressed with the way this story was structured and found parts of it nothing short of brilliant I almost gave up after the first chapter because I didn t think the style of the book would be for me but I read on, and became completely engrossed and horrified and moved This is such an important book, and I m so glad I read it flag 6 likesLike see review Jul 25, 2018 Michele Springer rated it it was ok I really wanted to like this book In theory, I do But the actual execution of the book didn t work for me.I felt that Tamblyn tried too hard to be relevant and current You can tell by her writing style that she is a poet, and I just don t think it worked for this novel Each victim was intended to hair his own voice and narrative, but all the voices and stories blended together.I think Tamblyn intended for this to be a subtle social commentary but the commentary screamed from the pages I did I really wanted to like this book In theory, I do But the actual execution of the book didn t work for me.I felt that Tamblyn tried too hard to be relevant and current You can tell by her writing style that she is a poet, and I just don t think it worked for this novel Each victim was intended to hair his own voice and narrative, but all the voices and stories blended together.I think Tamblyn intended for this to be a subtle social commentary but the commentary screamed from the pages I did enjoy the Twitter section I think this was a good way of showing how violence like this is glamorized and portrayed in the media, and which sensationalized stories truly garner the public s attention But the rest especially the final narrative fell flat for me flag 6 likesLike see review May 18, 2018 Melissa Rochelle rated it really liked it Shelves read 2018, ebook, arc, mystery suspense I struggled through the first few pages, but once Tamblyn introduces Maude s second victim I couldn t put the book down I read it in just a few hours and was entranced It was interesting how she flipped the narrative made the victims men, the rapist a woman And instead of following Maude and her actions, we follow the victims and their reactions flag 6 likesLike see review Aug 07, 2018 rated it really liked it review of another edition This book is a great example of why it s so important to hold judgement when it comes to controversial books until you ve actually read it yourself Had I just accepted the general consensus of what people think this book is about or what it aims to achieve, I d have skipped it, under the impression that it was simply faux edgy trash parading around the women can be monsters and sexual predators too defense that a lot of people a certain type of person loves to bring up whenever the subject This book is a great example of why it s so important to hold judgement when it comes to controversial books until you ve actually read it yourself Had I just accepted the general consensus of what people think this book is about or what it aims to achieve, I d have skipped it, under the impression that it was simply faux edgy trash parading around the women can be monsters and sexual predators too defense that a lot of people a certain type of person loves to bring up whenever the subject of sexual violence is ever discussed which is downright dismissive and dangerous, and completely ignores the facts.Some facts 1 in 4 women in North America will experience sexual assault In Canada specifically, that statistic is actually 1 in 3, and at least 80% of sexual assault victims are women, and in 99% of cases the accused perpetrators of these assaults are men It is also true that in cases where males are the victims of sexual assault, at least 54% of the accused perpetrators were also male It s generally true that rape is a genderless, raceless, classless crime But it s also very much true that often than not, it is a gendered crime, where most sexual violence is perpetrated by males against females.So That said, a book dealing with a female serial rapist who leaves countless male victims in her wake, is naturally going to be a very contentious book My first thoughts upon hearing about its release was wondering why Amber Tamblyn, who s been so forefront in the MeToo movement, would even go this route Society in general is really ignorant about sexual assault and rape when it comes to women, but is sometimes even obtuse about sexual violence against men, and this book could have the potential to so easily make it worse But my second thought was that its concept also could have the potential to be extremely compelling, and so I chose to read the book for myself and see what it I d get from it, for myself My hope for it being that Amber Tamblyn s intent for the book would be to flip the narrative in order for us the readers, society, men to examine rape culture from a different point of view and hopefully gain some previously missing insight, understanding and sympathy.And now having read the book, I do believe my hopes were met I think Amber was trying to do several things with the book, but the main thing being just what I ve described above Some style choices particularly at the beginning of the book were not to my liking at all, being poetry heavy, kind of abstract, and rather oddly worded But it settled down and found its footing not long into the book, and I found myself really absorbed by the story and the characters various men of varying ages, races and social standings, who are dealing with the aftermaths of having been raped by the elusive female rapist of the novel There were some passages in the book that were exceptionally written They were raw and cold and honest, and sometimes even darkly satirical It seems odd, but it worked fantastically.Speaking of satire, a main theme of the book was putting a spotlight on social media and mainstream journalism s role in rape culture how grotesquely warped it can be even when trying to help and how it can often just continue to perpetuate rape culture This was what Amber Tamblyn did best in the book She nailed it The tone, the soundbites, the standard talking points, the hashtags and backhanded well wishes and concerns These portions of the book truly blew me away.People will continue to hate this book just to hate it or to have something to be outraged and offended by without actually having a clue of what they re supposed to be outraged or offended by Me, personally I was both surprised by and satisfied with what it ultimately was or what I perceived it to be, at least This is an extremely dark, often satirical, counter look at rape culture and how victims of sexual violence are treated scrutinized mocked ignored rejected etc It s not meant to glorify the female rapist and her actions, and it s not meant to be thrilling and exciting or deliciously controversial in the traditional sense or for the sake of it, or in the vain that the Gone Girls of the literary world are Was Amber Tamblyn successful at all this That s very subjective But if you ask me, I d say yes.Unfortunately though, I think mostly the wrong people will give it a read By that I mean, I think mostly women will be compelled to read this book, when it s actually men no offense, but again, those who are responsible for the vast majority of sexual violence against all genders who need to read it who need to see their own and themselves in the role of the victim and the survivor, because when all else fails and it seems like it kind of has it just might be easier this way to connect the dots and to sympathize and to understand wholly what rape culture is and how its existence and place in society hurts us all flag 5 likesLike see review View 1 comment Sep 09, 2018 Aleksandra rated it really liked it Shelves 2018 releases CW rape, victim blaming, transphobia as in anti trans man comments, deadnaming , misogyny, eating disorder, suicide, suicide attempt, PTSD, child abuse, gore, violence Any Man is adult standalone novel, written in various formats, including the diary entries, poetry, interview scripts, letters, tweets etc The book is brutally honest take on rape culture Any Man is a story about five men who were raped by the same female perpetrator It s a bit a story of these men dealing with the aftermath o CW rape, victim blaming, transphobia as in anti trans man comments, deadnaming , misogyny, eating disorder, suicide, suicide attempt, PTSD, child abuse, gore, violence Any Man is adult standalone novel, written in various formats, including the diary entries, poetry, interview scripts, letters, tweets etc The book is brutally honest take on rape culture Any Man is a story about five men who were raped by the same female perpetrator It s a bit a story of these men dealing with the aftermath of it, but mostly the book is an exploration of how media treats rape, how rape survivors are treated, how rape culture prospers and lives, while people lose their voice and their lifes How people move forward and reclaim their voiceWhile the main characters did have personalities, the book is about the issue, the book is about rape culture, its toxicity and its vast spread in all of the spheres of our life, the characters are means to convey the message.It is a necessary and timely read The book s format allows the deep immersion in the issues I was horrified, I was angry and I felt that I had seen it all time and again, in news, on twitter The author clearly knows what she s dealing with.The twist of common to these cases gender roles did add an angle, which is not that talked about in the media.To tell the truth, I have just finished the book and I need time to collect my thoughts I might return to this review and add something, I might not.Bottom line, Any Man is impactful and honest and I m glad I ve read it I would recommend reading it, but be mindful of content warnings flag 5 likesLike see review View all 5 comments Sep 03, 2018 Jenna rated it it was amazing Shelves audio o 5 big holy sh t stars I am utterly impressed by this brilliant book By turning the tables and making men the victims of sexual assault by a faceless female serial rapist shines an even brighter light on the issue of our society blaming the victims It magnifies EVERYTHING that women have been trying to bring to the forefront with the me too movement This novel is smart, dark and powerful I am completely floored by this incredible debut Bravo Encore, please I will be waiting flag 4 likesLike see review Jul 08, 2018 Cassie Gutman happybooklovers rated it really liked it Shelves own thank you to the publisher for the free review copy This review is all mine Tamblyn flipped some roles on their heads while simultaneously covering incredibly important aspects of rape culture, survivor and victim blaming, and in this powerhouse of a novel Comes with some definite trigger warnings flag 4 likesLike see review Nov 02, 2018 Chelsey rated it it was amazing review of another edition Shelves adult, fiction, read 2018 I don t have words I have feelings, lots of them, and I feel a little messed up inside now flag 4 likesLike see review View all 4 comments Sep 05, 2018 LEAH rated it really liked it review of another edition Shelves atmospheric, bring on the tears, crime fiction, dark or darkish, emotional, horror if ic, listened on audio, mindfuck, read 2018, social media Any Man will do cringing I m not a fan of poetry type prose and this is mostly written that way It also has a lot of social media commentary, but its also super short, only about 4 1 2 hours on Audio, so not a deal breaker by any means Even so, this wrecked me This book is not only brutally scary, it s also so unbelievably intense and emotional I cried real tears Ultimately, the message that Any Man imparts is what its all about, and something I won t likely forget For that reas Any Man will do cringing I m not a fan of poetry type prose and this is mostly written that way It also has a lot of social media commentary, but its also super short, only about 4 1 2 hours on Audio, so not a deal breaker by any means Even so, this wrecked me This book is not only brutally scary, it s also so unbelievably intense and emotional I cried real tears Ultimately, the message that Any Man imparts is what its all about, and something I won t likely forget For that reason alone this is must read or listen, if you like audiobooks, I definitely recommend the Audio version There is a total of 14 people, including the Author, who lend their voices to this story, making it all the compelling MY RATING 4.5 STARS GRADE A BREAKDOWN OF RATINGS Plot 4.5 5Characters 4 5The Feels 5 5Pacing 3 5Addictiveness 5 5Flow Writing Style 3.5 5Originality 5 5For its Message 5 5Ending 4.3 5Book Cover Plain but inviting.Narration 4.5 for a full cast with Glenn Davis, Ben Foster, Marc Maron, Jason Ritter, John Roberts, Russ Tamblyn, Amber Tamblyn, January LaVoy, Phoebe Strole, Robin Miles, Therese Plummer, Dan Bittner, James Fouhey, Michael Crouch.Setting Various Cities, and the internetSource Audiobook Library flag 3 likesLike see review Aug 03, 2018 Jacob Kolody rated it it was amazing WOW Loved this book from start to finish I questioned Maude s motive the whole time and that explanation at the very end of the book just wow So good Amber Tamblyn s poetry skills definitely came through in this novel, sort of in the same vein as Ellen Hopkins May I digress for a second I just want to say I d love to see some cisgender white males read this book and maybe have their perspectives changed I know far too many men who have never experienced the oppression women have especi WOW Loved this book from start to finish I questioned Maude s motive the whole time and that explanation at the very end of the book just wow So good Amber Tamblyn s poetry skills definitely came through in this novel, sort of in the same vein as Ellen Hopkins May I digress for a second I just want to say I d love to see some cisgender white males read this book and maybe have their perspectives changed I know far too many men who have never experienced the oppression women have especially women of colour ESPECIALLY TRANS OR QUEER WOMEN OF COLOUR and don t believe many women s rape accusations Sad that it would take this book to do it but maybe a novel from a male rape victim s POV would make them see real life victims testimonies in a different light Nevertheless, a fantastic read Can t wait to see what else Amber Tamblyn has up her sleeve flag 3 likesLike see review View 2 comments Sep 25, 2018 Susan Bazzett Griffith rated it liked it Shelves great fiction and not great fiction, poetry, psych soc fem pop This was a tough book to rate The juxtaposition of reading a book about the after effects of a serial rapist who targets men with today s climate of reckoning for sexual assault was jarring, and quite frankly was a difficult read for any of us with a metoo story Tamblyn s writing ranges from profound and raw to overdone and a little strained the biggest problem I had was the lack of consistency in the writing quality like some of it was edited well and some of it needed an additional once o This was a tough book to rate The juxtaposition of reading a book about the after effects of a serial rapist who targets men with today s climate of reckoning for sexual assault was jarring, and quite frankly was a difficult read for any of us with a metoo story Tamblyn s writing ranges from profound and raw to overdone and a little strained the biggest problem I had was the lack of consistency in the writing quality like some of it was edited well and some of it needed an additional once or twice over Was a fast read, but not an easy one, and the ending no spoilers was pretty brilliant Three stars curious to see what she writes next flag 3 likesLike see review Aug 17, 2018 Carrie rated it really liked it I ve always admired actress Amber Tamblyn, and I give her huge props for tackling the traumatic aftermath of rape In this book, the rape occurs to men, but the shells of their former selves they become is universal, regardless of the victim s gender And Tamblyn is clearly a gifted poet.That being said, the style wasn t really for me The mixture of poetry, prose, and online communication did not make for comfortable curl up and read material Then again, maybe that s the point it should not I ve always admired actress Amber Tamblyn, and I give her huge props for tackling the traumatic aftermath of rape In this book, the rape occurs to men, but the shells of their former selves they become is universal, regardless of the victim s gender And Tamblyn is clearly a gifted poet.That being said, the style wasn t really for me The mixture of poetry, prose, and online communication did not make for comfortable curl up and read material Then again, maybe that s the point it should not be a relaxing read It should show the horrors of sexual assault and the psychological trauma that lingers long after Kudos to Tamblyn for doing that so well flag 3 likesLike see review Jul 30, 2018 Ashley Owens rated it really liked it Shelves owned, rape culture 4.5 5 stars I can t believe Amber wrote this, I had no idea she had it in her A very thought provoking and sometimes violent book But one we definitely needed right now flag 3 likesLike see review previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 next new topicDiscuss This Book There are no discussion topics on this book yet Be the 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    1. Amber Tamblyn is an author, actor, and director She s been nominated for an Emmy, Golden Globe, and Independent Spirit Award for her work in television and film, including House M.D and Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants Most recently, she wrote and directed the feature film Paint It Black She is the author of three books of poetry, including the critically acclaimed bestseller Dark Sparkler, a Amber Tamblyn is an author, actor, and director She s been nominated for an Emmy, Golden Globe, and Independent Spirit Award for her work in television and film, including House M.D and Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants Most recently, she wrote and directed the feature film Paint It Black She is the author of three books of poetry, including the critically acclaimed bestseller Dark Sparkler, and a novel, Any Man, as well as a contributing writer for the New York Times She lives in New York


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    1. Blog BookstagramThis book is unlike anything I have ever read, and I am utterly emotionally ruined by it.Seriously This book has fucked me up.I started reading this in the morning and I didn t put it down until I read the last page that evening I was completely obsessed, completely enthralled and emotionally enamoured.I ve taken a couple of days to think about this review because I want it to be coherent and not preachy, but I m definitely about to go on a rant of epic proportions filled wit Blo [...]

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    2. When I was in my twenties I was attacked, assaulted, groped.I don t know what word to really use for it I was on a bus that was full of people The subway was broken down and I had to stand I was facing the windows and leaning over some old woman who wasn t making eye contact because you don t do that on NYC public transportation if you can help it I didn t see his face At first I just assumed it was because there were so many people The trains and the buses get super crowded, especially in When [...]

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    3. TW Rape, suicide, self harm, gore, and violence With a flair of unorthodox writing, Tamblyn creates a provocative debut novel that is befuddling in its narrative style and experimental format, but still sears with an irrefutable verity about rape culture, sexual assault and aggression, the effects of patriarchal masculinity on men, and the way by which we feast on this ruckus in various media as it upends the lives of survivors, who in turn, commit atrocious acts that might eventually lead to s [...]

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    4. This book is insane It s been a while since I flew through a book as quickly as I did with this one, and for good reason There is absolutely no down time in this book, it just made it impossible for me to put it down It obviously tackles very real, raw, and intense topics, rape being the main focus But not only that, it discusses recovery, suicide, eating disorders, among many others I really loved how Tamblyn spoke frankly about all of these things, and her sometimes very poetic writing sty Thi [...]

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    5. FUCKED ME RIGHT UP WOW

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    6. Unlike anything I ve ever read It was macabre, twisted and so unique It s not for the faint of heart I loved the writing style, at one point I forgot this was fiction, needless to say I was very impressed with Amber Tamblyn.

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    7. You ever start reading a book and know immediately that it was going to be something different than what you ve ever read before That you know you re going to get gut punched and deepen that line between your eyes from the intense face you make as you turn each page Yeah, that s what happened here.Amber Tamblyn uses a variety of writing styles here to bring you a story that s not about the victimizer, but about the victims She takes us deep into their minds in the aftermath of their horrible You [...]

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